Ladies...it's time we're honest with ourselves. Men aren't the only ones who do wrong. We are BY FAR the colder sex. It is easier for us to cause harm to the men we date than it is for them to cause harm to us. For a man to open up, it takes SO much effort and trust. When we hurt them...even inadvertently...it damages them deeply. We are generally taught to be open and loving...we end up hurt when someone abuses that. Now, all wounds heal, but a broken person will always be broken in some way unless they want to heal.I speak from experience. I am just about the most cold-hearted woman you could meet in a relationship. It is because I shut down from being hurt so many times in the past. To the inexperienced eye/heart, love is very easy to feign. It became an art form to me. I learned how to turn a man's life upside down within a month by being exactly what he wanted, create love, and destroy it. It was out of anger that I did all this. I've grown up quite a bit since I was 17. I'll be realistic: I know for a fact that if I set my mind to it, I could destroy the man I'm with. I refuse to do that because I care for him. I do not want to hurt him because he cares for me deeply and took the time and effort to open his heart to me. It has taken me much longer to open to him, but over time I definitely have.
It is time that we realize the damage that we are capable of and try to heal the pain we've caused ladies. We always talk about a good man is so hard to find and that they are all either taken, gay, or in jail...this is not true. If we could take the time to be the woman that they need: supportive, loving, intelligent, and honest, there would be a lot more decent men in the world. About a month ago, I pulled my little black book out and called every ex that I hurt...every man that I never called back and apologized to them, from the heart. Some were shocked, some were angry, most understood and asked to be friends. It felt so good to know that I had tried to help someone I hurt. I sat back and thought of all the pain that I've caused so many men in my life...it was definitely time for me to apologize for the harm done. So many men do not know the value of a good woman because they have never had one...it's time we show them what a woman is really worth.
